In October 2014, I read an article entitled "Stop Being So Positive". When I saw the title, I had to stop what I was doing to read it. I thought it was going to be one of those articles bashing positive thinking and affirmations. Although the writer did state that positive affirmations did nothing to improve life, I found myself agreeing with much of the article. "But how can you agree when you post positive affirmations?" I hear you. And I have an answer. We use affirmations with the effort of increasing the readers' positivity level. However, my clients are the ones who get the deeper appreciation for them. I work with my clients, both with counseling and coaching, to develop a plan for th

Each of these tips were derived from numerous sessions with numerous clients. 1. The "I am an island" mentality. I have seen people be very dismissive of others through many memes. "I am my own team." "If you aren't for me, you're against me." And many, many others with similar messages. The posters may be intending to self-protect. However, constantly pushing people away doesn't send the message that you want others in. For example, if you view everyone as expendable, you're not sending the message to others that you're a friendly person, and possibly someone that they would want to be around. Sending the wrong message can attract the wrong types of people into your life. If that's the case